The title of this book can put you off - Your Child can be a Genius. That is the kind of hype publishers resort to in flogging their ware in a saturated market of self-help books. Typical reaction of a skeptical reader could be, ‘Genius? No way, not my brat’.
But then I rarely skip nowadays anything pertaining to children. I have developed a vested interest in reading up on child growth ever since grandson Siddarth came along some nine months back. I keep up with literature on bringing up children, and clogging their Inbox, so much that my son/daughter-in-law may have reason to feel that grandpa-ing is all about backseat driving. A mitigating factor, for them, is that my wife and I live half a globe away from them.
Deccan Herald book reviewer, Kamala Balachandran, bills Your Child can be a Genius by Aruna Raghavan as a must-read for all young parents and new grand parents. Points from Ms. Balachandran’s review:
- Author who tried out her ideas on her only child Nirupama was astounded by the child’s unprecedented pace of learning.
- Aruna Raghavan, a New Indian Express columnist, believes that most children have unexplored potential for brilliance; if this were to be nurtured from the very beginning, what we call a genius now would become the norm, rather than a rarity.
- Greater a child’s physical movement, the faster do brain cells multiply. A toddler needs to be bombarded with visual and auditory stimuli right from the time he is in the crib.
- A chapter devoted to missed milestones says, for instance, a baby that did not creep or crawl but sat up directly has certain sensory pathways unopened. But a child can be helped, at a later stage, to build what he/she missed out as an infant.
- To make a genius of him/her the parents need to perspire quite a bit; the author can tell us a thing or two on how a two/three old can be taught to read. The book seeks to create a school in every home. Nirupama, now a brilliant 18-year-old, had her entire ‘schooling’ at home.
- The author believes that if a hundred kids, with the benefit of home schooling, were to enroll in a school, it would raise the bar - “we all agree that the (education) system needs overhauling, yet we are reluctant to take the first step”.
Thanks GVK for drawing my attention. These days I have not been active in devoting my time to blog since I am busy preparing to go to my daughter's place in Anand. I am very much interested in the subject In fact my daughter is a special educator and she has had a tremendous success in dealing with them. No doubt parents can act as a catylist to flower the genius dormant in their children. For example, we know the story of how Subhadra's son Abhimanu learnt the art of entering the chakravuha while he was in the womb. It is the same attitude that informs every pregnant woman not to have bad thoughts and always be happy and read books imparting good values. It is also known that we only use about 10% of our faculties and certianly with an intelligent upbringing the child can develop intellectually very high levels of attainment. But there is one doubt that assaults me. I can give a parallel between two systems followed about farming since the artificial manure has advrse effect on health. One is organic farming and the other natural farming. Both farmings are benign in nature but natural farming is infinitely better. The point I am stressing is that there must be a natural way in which a child develops and goes through several natural stages of development. I know the cases of musicians who have attained very high degree of proficiency due mainly to the parental pressue and in the bargain they miss their childhood, of playing with others, indulging in mischiefs etc. No doubt the accolade they get in the public may temprarily boost them but they always feel they have really missed out on something. Therfore how imaginatively the parents nurture the talent is crucial. The child matures prematurely like a fast runner who normally die early. These are my thoughts
Recently, there was an article in one of the mags how some parents are pushing their children to become prodigies. As Mr.Satyanarayana says, there is something unnatural about it.
And I, for one, feel so glad that my kids are safely in college and out of reach for me to try out some new theory on them.
Maybe with my grandhcildren, I will feel rejuvenated enough to feed their minds all day long. if we live in the same vicinity. But for now, thank god my kid rearing days are over. the doubts and recriminations that creep in now are enough of a plateful to handle without adding to it.
This is a book published by the Indian Express group which I have read quite some time ago after picking it up from one of the recent Navakarnataka Book Fairs that are held in the city from time to time. I did not find it in any way different from the many Child rearing books that purport to show us anxious and over-eager parents the magic route to creating instant geniuses. Unfortunately the art of simple straightforward parenting itself is very complex and difficult especially these days when there is the great balancing act to be done between the demands of a future and the distractions of the present. Most parents today are not able to give the normal time and attention that their children need to develop the right values and attitudes, qualities that are not taught by the present education system. It is because of this fault of ours that books like these seem very useful. But in successful parenting there are no shortcuts and the road if it has to take us somewhere, necessarily has to be long and ardous.